Marriage

 

If a marriage is to endure over time,
it has to be because both people within it
have tacitly acknowledged something that young lovers might find preposterous:
it is bigger, and more important, than both of us.
It's love, sure, and inside jokes and conversational shorthand.
But it's also families, friends, traditions,
landmarks, knowledge, history.
It's children,
children whose parents' marriage is bedrock for them
even if they're not children anymore.
Perhaps especially if they're not children anymore.

~Anna Quindlen

Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake
a memoir



婚姻要維持
祕訣在於夫妻倆對於一件事心照不宣：
(這段話年輕的戀人可能完全聽不進去）
婚姻比倆個人大，比倆個人重要。
當然婚姻裡有愛 有內幕 有默契 有心有靈犀一點通
也有家庭 朋友 傳統 里程碑 知識 歷史 孩子
對孩子來說 （包括已經長大成人的孩子）
父母的婚姻是基礎 是穩定的力量